Summary of The Verbally Abusive Relationship

How to Recognize It and How to Respond

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The Verbally Abusive Relationship book summary
Words can hurt and the victims of verbal abuse suffer terribly. Learn how to protect yourself from these menacing attacks.


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Verbal abuse might not be as visible as physical abuse, but it can be just as damaging. What makes this type of abuse so insidious is that the victim blames herself, further weakening her self-esteem, instead of placing the responsibility firmly where it belongs – on the abuser. Patricia Evans unmasks verbal abuse in all its hurtful guises, from the most obvious such as yelling and name-calling, to the covert manipulations of sabotage, double-speak and denial. Evans bases her insights and conclusions on extensive research. She uses real-life situations and dialogue to shed light on this dark, destructive ailment – though she sometimes can be repetitive and unnecessarily complex. Her in-depth analysis of the dynamics of verbal abuse may be more suited to therapists and researchers than to victims seeking coping advice. Evans would be the first to say that if you are in imminent danger, get professional help or a cop. getAbstract recommends her book to anyone who might be in a verbally abusive relationship or who cares about someone who is. Therapists and counselors will also benefit from this well-researched thesis.

In this summary, you will learn

  • What verbal abuse is, why it is hard to recognize and how it affects its victims
  • How to identify and combat verbal abuse in your relationship


About Verbal Abuse
You can't see the signs of verbal abuse simply by looking at its victims. Unlike physical abuse, verbal abuse leaves no bruises, visible scars or broken bones. But the victims suffer and bear emotional scars. The partner (predominantly female) of an abuser (predominantly...
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About the Author

Patricia Evans has written four books on verbal abuse. She works as a consultant, speaker and facilitator.

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