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Stop Self-Sabotage

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Stop Self-Sabotage

Get Out of Your Own Way to Earn More Money, Improve Your Relationships, and Find the Success You Deserve

McGraw-Hill,

15 min read
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Stop being your own worst enemy. Instead, become your own greatest source of support and loudest advocate.

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Never has the saying “You are your own worst enemy” taken on more meaning than in this analysis of self-sabotage. Clinical psychotherapist Pat Pearson takes a close look at how people prevent themselves from achieving abundant success and happiness. She explains that individuals set “Deserve Levels” for every aspect of their lives. If they try to exceed these self-imposed limits, they become conflicted and often undermine their success with various self-sabotage strategies. Ultimately, if you don’t believe at your very core that you deserve something, you won’t allow yourself to have it. You’ll lose weight just to gain it back, fail to develop an intimate relationship or get fired from your dream job. If you feel you are constantly falling short of getting what you want, getAbstract recommends this book to you. Its systematic advice, self-tests, transforming exercises, concrete action recommendations, self-affirming strategies and real-life examples will help you smash your “internal glass ceiling.”

Summary

You Deserve It!

Everyone self-sabotages. Some people continually form unhealthy relationships. Still others underperform at work and create problems. Although people don’t deliberately engage in these behaviors, they are thwarting themselves nonetheless. If you are stuck in a self-sabotaging pattern, you can take steps to break free. Start by understanding why you keep yourself from getting what you want most. Become aware of your “Deserve Levels,” which dictate what you think you are worthy of in life. You set them in every area of your existence, including your casual and intimate relationships, your career and your health. Four factors determine your Deserve Levels:

  1. “Beliefs” – You developed your belief system during childhood. It is a compilation of your experiences and the messages you received from your family, friends, teachers and religious leaders, and from everything you read or watched. You form separate beliefs for the various aspects of your life, including faith, career, family, success, health, and so on. Some of your beliefs work to your advantage, but others hold you back and restrict your Deserve Levels. Avoid thoughts like “...

About the Author

Pat Pearson, M.S.S.W., is a clinical psychotherapist with more than two decades of experience. She is also a motivational speaker and the author of You Deserve the Best, Reclaiming the Fire in Your Heart and Party with a Purpose.

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