Summary of Friendfluence

The Surprising Ways Friends Make Us Who We Are

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Friendfluence book summary
The power and worth of friendships may surprise you.


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Friends can improve your health or motivate you to quit smoking or lose weight. A lack of friends can lead to isolation, unhappiness and poor health. In modern society, where many people delay or avoid marriage, having friends can fill that relationship void. You may be happiest and less stressed with your friends because you expect less from them than from your mate or your family. Former Psychology Today writer and editor Carlin Flora discusses different aspects of friendship, including the powerful sway of “friendfluence,” in this meticulously researched report. Weaving personal stories with social-science research, Flora discusses how children and adolescents make friends, what benefits and disadvantages friendship brings, how the Internet affects friendship, and more. Her book is fairly comprehensive, though Flora doesn’t write in depth about workplace friendship; perhaps that’s fertile ground for her next book. getAbstract recommends her insights to people seeking to better understand or appreciate their friendships.

In this summary, you will learn

  • Why making and keeping friends matters
  • How people of all ages make friends
  • How friends affect you
  • Whether virtual friendships are good or bad


Defining Friendship
How do you define friendship? Holly described meeting Erin as “love at first sight – but not in a romantic way.” Erin helped Holly leave her difficult husband, and even though they had known each other for only a few months, Erin offered Holly a place to live. Friends...
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About the Author

Carlin Flora worked for eight years as a writer and editor at Psychology Today.

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