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Is it manipulative to speak to others in a way you know will please them? Purists of the to-thine-own-self-be-true school may think so, but the people on the receiving end of your courtesy, deference and regard will not. Communications consultant Leil Lowndes has assembled 96 techniques you can use to make others feel good about you – often by making them feel good about themselves. These techniques work best, of course, when applied with sincerity and not phony zeal. Your purpose is not to flatter people, but to engender their positive regard. Scheming? Calculating? That’s up to you to decide. Although you may not choose to follow Lowndes' sometimes boundary-testing advice to the letter, getAbstract recommends her fun book to anyone who needs a boost in getting along well with others. So unless you are already a bon vivant – or, conversely, a hermit – this book is for you.

In this summary, you will learn

  • How to make good first and last impressions;
  • How to communicate well;
  • How to create a positive impression through e-mails and cellphone calls;
  • How to socialize and build better relationships; and
  • How you should not speak or behave.

About the Author

Leil Lowndes is a consultant, speaker and writer. She owns and runs a firm that provides promotional services to major corporations, and is the author of How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You and How to Talk with Anyone, both bestsellers.



Focus on Others and They Will Focus on You
Numerous effective communication techniques and subtle stratagems allow you to build confidence, speak easily with others and connect positively with everyone you meet. These techniques enable you to promote other people’s feelings of self-esteem...

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