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How much of yourself should you share in the workplace? Traditionally, keeping your emotions and vulnerabilities to yourself is considered professional. However being open can help you connect with other members of your team. Vulnerability can be both a strength and a liability. When Quartz at Work reporter Leah Fessler – a millennial and self-professed sharer – joined a new team at work, she struggled with her generation X co-workers’ hesitancy to talk about their feelings. In her essay,  she calls on older workers to open up. getAbstract recommends her plea to gen Xers and baby boomers puzzled by their young co-workers’ divulgence of too much information.

In this summary, you will learn

  • How generations differ in their approach to talking about emotions at work,
  • Why sharing can be both a strength and a liability in the business world, and
  • How author Leah Fessler found common ground in communicating with her generation X colleagues.

About the Author

Leah Fessler is a reporter for Quartz at Work and covers work, management and relationships.



As an extroverted millennial from a loud Italian family, Leah Fessler says exactly what she thinks and feels. Despite the risk of oversharing, she sees vulnerability as a strength and hiding emotions as exhausting. Fessler was used to working with other millennials in similar life situations, who shared stories about roommates, dating, and more. When she joined a new team at work, she found herself in the company of predominantly generation X colleagues who were at a different stage of life. They were warmhearted, but mostly closed-off and unwilling to share details about their lives outside work. Fessler felt intimidated and lonely. She missed the banter and gossip of her previous position.

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