Most parents want their children to succeed, but too often they emphasize accomplishment over developing character traits such as kindness and generosity. This leads kids to value these virtues less. In this Atlantic article, psychologist Adam Grant and psychiatric nurse practitioner Allison Sweet Grant argue persuasively for a different approach. Instead of inquiring about their test scores at the dinner table, ask your children how they helped others. Soon they’ll be looking for the opportunity to do so, and you’ll be helping them learn to balance reaching goals with being a good person. Parents will appreciate learning how doing good becomes a path to doing well.
About the Authors
Adam Grant, PhD, teaches organizational psychology at the University of Pennsylvania’s Wharton School of Business. His wife, Allison Sweet Grant, is a writer and psychiatric nurse practitioner.
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