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The Secure Leader
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The Secure Leader

Discover the Hidden Forces that Shape Your Leadership Story—and How to Change Them

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From infancy onward, people’s brains generate stories to help them navigate and adapt to daily living. As Jaime Goff writes, many of those stories remain unconscious, yet they influence people’s lifelong behavior. For example, leaders whose early “dominant attachment” stories reflect security are more confident and better attuned to others than those who are insecure, often due to childhood neglect. As Goff explains, such people may need to rewrite the histories embedded in their brains. To help you understand her broad psychological suggestions for improving your leadership capabilities by addressing your internal story, Goff provides illuminating exercises that personalize the process.

Summary

Your brain tells your story and shapes your leadership style.

The internal stories people tell themselves about their lives shape their leadership approaches and their behavior. Stories from people’s youth often remain unconscious and unexamined, even as they wield significant influence on their careers and their lives. In some cases, the connection between people’s life stories and how they behave as leaders may be obvious and manageable, and sometimes it is harder to detect.

For example, someone who grew up with destructive, alcoholic parents might have a negative reaction to a team brainstorming session or holiday gathering held over glasses of wine. However, knowing you are vulnerable to such triggers makes it possible to mitigate or avoid them. The danger is that people are often completely unaware of certain aspects of their histories – and, thus, of their internal stories, despite the influence those stories have on them.

The brain is the principal organ through which humans adapt to their environment. It starts telling people’s stories early in their lives. And, in time, people make sense of their lives through stories. Leaders often explain and rationalize...

About the Author

Jaime Goff, PhD, founded The Empathic Leader, which offers executive coaching, workshops, and public speaking. She is an ICF-certified coach and holds the SHRM-CP designation.


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