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Winning with People

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Winning with People

Discover the People Principles That Work for You Every Time

Thomas Nelson,

15 min read
10 take-aways
Audio & text

What's inside?

To be a better people person, follow a few simple principles that foster enhanced relationships.

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Author John C. Maxwell follows his solid 17 Indisputable Laws of Teamwork with this book, which provides 25 essential “principles” for fostering interpersonal relationships. Maxwell uses poems, quotations and stories about such varied individuals as Benjamin Franklin, Martin Luther King Jr., Dale Carnegie, Barbara Walters, Pete Rose and Billy Martin to enliven his short chapters about the small, important steps that build better relationships. Unfortunately, the book seems slightly forced, stretching its theme to cover overlapping and somewhat arbitrary principles. Still, its broadly based, motivational stories make it spiritually uplifting. While this entry is not as compelling as Maxwell’s work on leadership, getAbstract believes it will be very useful to those who want to build stronger friendships and aren’t sure how to start.


To create good relationships, begin by shaping your own attitude so that you are supportive and open to others. Follow these “People Principles” to boost your relationships:

  1. “The Lens Principle” – The problems in most relationships often stem from how the people involved see themselves. Generally, you view other people the way you view yourself. Self-perception determines your outlook on life, that is, whether you are pessimistic, optimistic, friendly or suspicious. Five factors determine each individual’s character and worldview: genetics, self-perception, life experiences, how you interpret the past, and who your friends and acquaintances are. To change the way you form relationships and to make your relationships stronger, try to reshape the way you view other people.
  2. “The Mirror Principle” – Self-awareness is one of the most difficult traits to develop. People are often unaware of who they really are. That is unfortunate, since when you know yourself and when you have become comfortable with the person you actually are, you can be more relaxed with other people. Self-image determines how you relate to others. Being best friends with someone...

About the Author

Leadership expert John C. Maxwell founded the Injoy Group, an organization that helps people fulfill their potential. He has written more than 25 books, including The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership, Developing the Leader Within You and Falling Forward.

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