Summary of 7 Ways to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

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When you compare yourself with others, you’re “comparing your behind-the-scenes to someone else’s highlight reel,” cautions motivational speaker Jay Shetty. You take in the luster of their success without considering the hard work, missteps and obstacles they faced and overcame in the process. In his podcast On Purpose, Shetty provides seven strategies to liberate yourself from the comparison habit and gain a renewed appreciation for your own achievements, value and personal success.

About the Podcast

On his award-winning podcast On Purpose with Jay Shetty, former monk and motivational speaker Jay Shetty interviews discerning people, including Deepak Chopra, Yuval Harari and the late Kobe Bryant and shares lifestyle advice.



Constantly comparing yourself with others shakes your confidence and makes you question your self-worth.

People like to compare themselves with others, but self-judging and comparing can make you feel insecure and envious. While social media have intensified the problem, people have always fallen into the comparison trap. You might have wanted the cool, name-brand sneakers your schoolmate wore or worried that your co-worker attended a more prestigious school than your own alma mater.


You can compare yourself upward (with someone more accomplished) and downward (with someone less well-off). While upward comparison is more prevalent, downward comparison provides a self-affirming perspective. For example, when a father took his teenagers to India so they could observe living conditions of children in...

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