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Sure, it’s good to be nice, but you may be "too nice." If you are clingy, care too much what others think of you and minimize the bad personalities of the people around you, then your niceness may be hurting you. Authors James Rapson and Craig English recommend seven practices that will put you on the road to a more balanced emotional life - many of these approaches will be familiar to readers who have engaged in any sort of meditation or self-awareness exercises. Lists, sidebars and quotes make the book’s ideas easily accessible - although integrating these practices into your daily life will require some work. getAbstract recommends this book to self-help beginners who are tired of having sand kicked in their faces and wish to develop their tranquility and strength of character.

In this summary, you will learn

  • Why being too nice can harm you;
  • What causes "chronic niceness"; and
  • Which seven self-awareness practices will lead you from niceness to emotional health.

About the Authors

James Rapson is an educator, workshop leader and clinical member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, with expertise in marriage and family counseling. Craig English is a fiction and nonfiction author, workshop leader and founder of the Commoners writing group. He is a professional actor with experience in teaching.



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