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Captivate book summary

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8 Overall

9 Applicability

7 Innovation

8 Style

Recommendation

Behavioral researcher Vanessa Van Edwards believes that if you understand people better, you can more easily overcome your social anxieties. Her manual is organized in three parts. Part I discusses how to act when you meet someone so you can make a great first impression, as well as how to work a room and “spark” positive conversations. Part II explains how to read and understand other people’s “microexpressions,” personality traits and hidden values. Part III explores how to lead, build stronger connections and deal with difficult people. Van Edwards has great tips for nervous networkers and for those who want to nail the first five minutes of social interaction. Her hacks for starting and maintaining good relationships are useful, but they somewhat – at least, temporarily – elide the need for authenticity in building strong, long-term relationships. The book’s facial expression photos, flash cards, charts and lists enhance her lessons. getAbstract recommends this manual to anyone who occasionally feels awkward, to introverts who need a boost and to extroverts who want to strengthen their relationships.

In this summary, you will learn

  • How to overcome social awkwardness and read “microexpressions”;
  • How to “spark” a conversation and work a room; and
  • How to interpret personality traits, values, “love languages” and “appreciation languages.”
 

About the Author

Vanessa Van Edwards is a researcher, speaker and writer specializing in people skills and interpersonal intelligence.  She runs Science of People, a behavior research lab where she studies charisma, influence and power body language.

 

Summary

“Win the Social Game”

Take control of social situations by playing to your strengths. Identify the locations – bars, restaurants, gyms, boardrooms, coffee shops, hiking trails, concerts, conference rooms – where you “thrive, survive” or feel “neutral.” Your thrive locations are anywhere you’re happy and comfortable. Survive locations make you unhappy, uncomfortable or bored. And you can either survive or thrive in neutral locations, depending on your mood and companions. Go to thrive locations, and avoid places where you merely survive.

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