Summary of Discretion still matters

Looking for the article?
We have the summary! Get the key insights in just 5 minutes.

Discretion still matters summary


7 Overall

8 Applicability

7 Innovation

7 Style


Common office etiquette has it that the workplace is not a place to share your feelings – especially negative ones. Among millennials, however, some have come to consider the notion of splitting yourself into a “work self” and a “private self” as being both disingenuous and emotionally unhealthy. But for long-time management consultant and start-up co-founder Lawrence Krubner, trying to relate to your co-workers the same way you interact with your buddies won’t get you very far in the world of work. He has written a passionate defense of discretion in the workplace as a way of both protecting yourself and advancing your career. Whether you are a millennial or work with millennials, getAbstract considers Krubner’s opinion piece an excellent conversation starter.

In this summary, you will learn

  • Why sharing your feelings openly in a work setting is counterproductive,
  • Why being guarded will continue to pay off when climbing the career ladder.

About the Author

Lawrence Krubner is a software development consultant at Smash Company and co-founder of three start-ups.



Start-up co-founder Lawrence Krubner and his partner interviewed a job candidate in her early 20s named Lisa for a programmer position. During the interview, Lisa openly shared her doubts about her ability to meet the position’s many technical challenges. Instead of exuding confidence, Lisa was inadvertently undermining her prospects for getting the job. Yet Krubner, who was familiar with Deborah Tannen’s work on how men and women communicate differently, was able to correctly interpret Lisa’s behavior. Lisa, like many women, showed vulnerability and openly acknowledged her fears as a way of trying to create closeness. Lisa turned out to be a successful hire – yet she was wrong in her belief that building a relationship with an employer was the same as developing close friendships. 

Comment on this summary

  • Avatar
  • Avatar
    Natasia Mc Mahon 5 months ago
    I’m not sure if I got the gist of the authors intended outcome. Perhaps this time the abstract is too short. Having said that there are some key points for everybody, executive men and women as well as millennials entering the work place.

More on this topic

Customers who read this summary also read

More by category