Summary of Self-Esteem

A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving, and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem

New Harbinger,
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Self-Esteem book summary
Just as a bodybuilder exercises daily to build great muscles, you can exercise daily to build great self-esteem.


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Each individual manifests self-esteem, or the lack of it, differently. Generally, people with strong self-esteem had parents who nurtured them constantly during their early childhood, while those with low self-esteem often did not. Can people with low self-esteem build it as adults? Yes, because self-esteem is how you feel about yourself, and your thoughts control your feelings. If you take command of your thoughts, you can take command of your feelings, including your sense of self. In this fine book on self-esteem, Matthew McKay and Patrick Fanning show you how to banish regressive “stinking thinking” and the nasty inner critic that inevitably tries to flatten your self-esteem. You can use their instructive “cognitive techniques” to elevate your self-esteem, develop self-assurance and feel better about yourself. getAbstract finds McKay and Fanning’s book warm and practical. If their self-esteem is high, there’s a good reason.

In this summary, you will learn

  • Why self-esteem is important;
  • How to enhance it;
  • How to quiet your inner “pathological critic”; and
  • How to help your children develop healthy self-esteem.


Without Self-Esteem, You’re Dead
Life is tough, brutal and unforgiving – a knockdown, heavyweight fight. So, how can you survive? Build your self-esteem. If you feel that you do not deserve such a rough time, that you merit good experiences, not bad ones, then get up and fight back. But...
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About the Authors

Matthew McKay, Ph.D., is the clinical director of a psychological services practice in San Francisco. Patrick Fanning is a writer who specializes in mental-health topics. Both men are authors of other books on self-help and related subjects.

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