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Things would be just fine if only you would take complete responsibility for everything. That’s what “manipulative men” (or any manipulator) would like you to believe, says renowned behavioral expert Dorothy McCoy. She has written a useful field guide describing the most prevalent types of manipulative males. Find out what motivates them and how to cope. getAbstract suggests taking some of McCoy’s quizzes to identify manipulative patterns. Try her advice for change. Chances are you’re not the crazy one.

In this summary, you will learn

  • How to identify manipulative characteristics;
  • What techniques you can use to improve communication and work for change; and
  • When to leave the relationship.

About the Author

Dorothy McCoy, Ed.D., lectures, writes, and teaches personality and behavior subjects, including stress, anger and couples’ issues. She’s the author of The Ultimate Book of Personality Tests and Reversing Your Type II Diabetes.



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    Ali Wood 12 months ago
    I find this summary concerning. It perpetuates gender stereotypes (using gendered phrases such as 'women’s nurturing nature') and implies that power and control in a relationship is something held by one party rather than encouraging development of mutual respect. Sweeping generalisations that categorise men in this way only further perpetuate traditional gender role stereotypes that are damaging to both men and women. And implying that women are "unknowingly contributing to the difficulties" and are responsible for fixing their partner reinforces the alarming notion that addressing inequity in a relationship is the responsibility of the woman.
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      Erica Rauzin 12 months ago
      Thanks for your comments. We saw this as a psychological study, not an exercise in male-bashing or gender stereotyping, in that manipulators can come in either gender. This is also 10 years old, so we'll take another look at it. The author announces her subject right up front in the title, but the idea of blaming the partner is clearly not current. We're careful in all our coverage to be gender neutral and not sexist, so we appreciate the heads up.
      Erica Meyer Rauzin
      Senior Managing Editor

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