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Beverly Kaye and Sharon Jordan-Evans have written a useful book for employees who are tempted by greener pastures. The authors caution that those who pursue a glittering opportunity often wind up in a golden mess. Thus, it makes sense to at least try to improve your job before seeking another one that, ultimately, may be even worse. The book’s format offers one item of advice for each letter of the alphabet. At times, the formula wears a bit thin (X for "X-ers and Other Generations"), but the advice itself is sound. It primarily consists of encouraging you to decide what you want and go get it. recommends this book to currently employed malcontents (you know who you are!) and to those who need help mustering the nerve to discuss job satisfaction with their employers. Perhaps the best piece of advice is to only approach your supervisors for a favor when you understand their WIIFT: "What’s In It For Them."

In this summary, you will learn

  • How to use 26 tactics, from A to Z, to make your job more satisfying;
  • What to do if you absolutely must change employers;
  • How and when to confront your superiors; and
  • Which skills will improve your job performance.

About the Authors

Beverly Kaye heads a talent management consulting firm. Sharon Jordan-Evans specializes in executive coaching and leadership development. They also co-authored Love ’Em or Lose ’Em: Getting Good People to Stay.



Greener Pastures

That lush green grass is calling, beckoning you to leave your job and try life on the other side of the fence. Feel your career has reached a dead end? Want more pay? Tired of working for a jerk? Just plain bored? If you answered "yes," you may be on the verge of making a job move you’ll later regret. With a little coaching, you can often obtain more of what you want right where you are. These 27 lessons can be boiled down to five key messages:

  1. Perhaps you can find what you want at your current job, if you look harder and smarter.
  2. You control your career. Your organization isn’t responsible for your happiness.
  3. Don’t be passive. Take the initiative to get what you want.
  4. Don’t procrastinate. Rather than turning off your mind or quitting, improve your job.
  5. Before you bolt, carefully inspect those greener pastures.

A: "Ask And You May Receive"

If something bothers you at work, ask what you or your employer could do about it. Often unspoken issues cause friction that could have been resolved, if the boss had only known. Supervisors are often blindsided...

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    joy wang 2 years ago
    #30DaysOfSummaries These are practical ideas seems easy to carry out. Although I wonder whether they really work...
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    Ashish Agarwal 2 years ago
    On this day of Presidential Inauguration in US, this is one aspect of JFK that I do not subscribe to - 'ask not what your country can do'. I believe love has to be mutual, it can never be one sided to stay in a relationship. When such a point is reached in a relationship then the change is necessary and whether the new situation will be better is not a relevant consideration.

    It is high time that businesses as a whole and we as managers or leaders learn to value our people just as we value our customers and profits otherwise we all are in for even longer and extended periods of slow growth and mediocre economies.
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      Mark O'Brien 2 years ago
      You need to have the whole sentence for context. "Ask not what your country can do for you, ask what you can do for your country". If everyone asks for something from the country without offering anything in return other than a vote, how do we continue as a country?
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      Ashish Agarwal 2 years ago
      I think it is a give and take hence the word 'mutual' in my earlier comment; what kind of a country would it be that only taxed but did not feel obligated to do something for its citizens, something that its citizens deserve/need/want/ask for?

      Donald Trump seems to get it well as is apparent from his inauguration speech.
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    Dorothy E Enriquez 3 years ago
    This was a great read and helped put some things into perspective for me.
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    Robson Alves 6 years ago
    We at GM Canoas - Brasil have started to apply these concepts in our daily work. --> Based on " You may not be able to change others, but you can always improve yourself " and also
    " •Take the initiative to get what you want. Don’t become passive ". We have done a BRAINSTORMING about our Current Carrer, Goals with a plan --> Taking the Lead.
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      Gabriel Muller 6 years ago
      ... and this experience is being of great value for us. This experience and knowledge will be with us for the rest of our lifes. We have to say thanks to GM, you Robson and Mario. Thanks
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    Robson Alves 6 years ago
    This summary is excelent ! It’s completely aligned with the steps GM is working on Work Place of Choice and Cultural Change --> Need to take the Lead of our Career and also our Personal Development.
    We also shall track each step of our Goals.
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    Anthony Cruz 6 years ago
    I think the best takeaway was also the book's overall theme:
    Never make the company you work for responsible for your happiness.

    Too many in today's workforce see their employment situation almost as an entitlement at worst or at best, a "cost of doing business".
    I sincerely believe we should consider our fully loaded compensation as an investment our employer makes in the BUSINESS.
    Our attitude toward our job including real self-improvement efforts is an investment we make in OURSELVES.
    The presumption is that at the end of the year, all of us hopefully have given the house we serve more value than what it cost to keep us here in the first place. That's the symbiotic relationship we should all be seeking.
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    Somashekar Kallur 6 years ago
    Very good Summary! Specifically I liked; "Recognize that arriving at your destination often isn’t half as fun as the journey. Don’t be surprised if you continually look for new and bigger challenges.
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    Maureen Niemiec 6 years ago
    Interesting comments on work / life balance. The advice, though, to leave work at work isn't realistic for many - instead I think we're often in both places simultaneously.
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    Kimberly Pomicter 6 years ago
    Good summary. I believe in taking responsiblity for your own path - these are good reminders / coaching if you feel stuck.
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    Tammie Eggleston 6 years ago
    Good summary with practical advice.
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    Elizabeth Norwood 6 years ago
    Interesting summary.
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    Robert Brosig 6 years ago
    Great summary providing some good practicial advice which can be applied in everyone's job. Gives me an appetite to go out and read the book so I can dig into the details and find out more.
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    Olusegun Adeyina 6 years ago
    In reading the summary, it makes me want to delve further into reading the book. In watching all the changes in my organization, I am learning to be patient to leverage my knowledge and expertise and match it in the development of my department.
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    Douglas Hawkins 6 years ago
    The summary is a good guide to job / personal enrichment...and achieving what you strive for. Looking forward to reading the book.
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    Toni Rusch 6 years ago
    Even though I'm not looking to leave, I found a lot of interesting info even in just the summary! Good for improving your current and future worklife.
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    Nancy Lentini 6 years ago
    The book can expand your mind on what actions you can take to improve your situation and contribute more. Applicable to both new and veteran employees.
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    Daniel Jaszkowski 6 years ago
    Good stuff! I see myself in this: Recognize that arriving at your destination often isn’t half as fun as the journey. Don’t be surprised if you continually look for new and bigger challenges.
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    Howard Weiss 6 years ago
    Some good suggestions: WIIFT, take responsibility for your own happiness, be crystal clear about your goals..
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    Arthur Lopez 6 years ago
    Some pretty good advice in here, especially A. Many employees are afraid/dont know how to ask for a job change, raise, etc. Most managment nowadays have open door policies to come talk about topics such as these.
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    Barbara Rumin 6 years ago
    The best job definition: 'Find things you like and somebody who will pay you for it!'.