Are you a professional doormat? Do people constantly push you around to get you to help them? If so, what can you do? Turn to author Damon Zahariades, whose best-selling instruction manual gives you useful techniques for saying no. A self-described “recovering people pleaser,” Zahariades applies his real-world experience to this universal issue. He used to turn himself inside out, he maintains, to help his friends, family members and colleagues with any requests for assistance. Although he always offered his valuable time with a big smile, inside he would be miserable and feel like a sap. Zahariades explains why you should speak honestly and directly about what you want to do and don’t want to do. This includes saying no when appropriate. He asks readers to personally commit to applying his lessons about speaking up for themselves and not always giving in to never-ending requests. To learn to say no, begin by saying yes to Zahariades’s outlook and strategies. He promises that the more often you say no now, the less often you’ll need to say it in the future.
In this summary, you will learn
- How to overcome the habitual, “learned behavior” of always saying yes;
- Why the word “no” is so powerful; and
- How to say no to others without feeling guilty.
About the Author
Lifestyle management expert Damon Zahariades has written several time-management and productivity books and produces the Art of Productivity blog.