Summary of There Is No Good Card for This

Looking for the book?
We have the summary! Get the key insights in just 10 minutes.

There Is No Good Card for This book summary
Start getting smarter:
or see our plans


9 Overall

9 Applicability

9 Innovation

8 Style


Empathy experts Kelsey Crowe and Emily McDowell’s comforting, instructive manual gives you the tools to offer genuine, appropriate empathy to someone facing a crisis, be it a death in the family, a divorce, a job loss or some other trauma. Both authors are cancer survivors, and Crowe’s mother died young after battling mental illness. They’ve received awkward attempts at comfort and agree that these well-meaning efforts weren’t so terrible, after all. What hurt was the silence from people they thought would be there for them. Crowe and McDowell share their experiences on the giving and receiving ends of comfort, tell candid stories, provide concrete examples and offer frank, lively advice. getAbstract recommends their guidance to anyone who wants to help when it’s needed most.

In this summary, you will learn

  • How to give support when others suffer,
  • How to get past your own discomfort and offer genuine empathy,
  • How to avoid being a “needy helper,” and
  • What you should never say.

About the Authors

Kelsey Crowe teaches social work at California State University. She founded Help Each Other Out. Its Empathy Bootcamps give people tools “for building relationships when it really counts.” Illustrator and speaker Emily McDowell created Empathy Cards for people undergoing a crisis.



“Bad Things Happen”

When you find yourself face-to-face with someone struggling or grieving, your first reaction might be “analysis paralysis.” Don’t overthink the situation. Learn to trust yourself to act when someone is hurting. You might say something clumsy, but that’s better than being silent. Figure out how to evaluate whether you’re being supportive or if you should just leave quietly. Self-trust is the key to serving others. Have faith in your kindness, values and ability to be supportive.

More on this topic

Customers who read this summary also read

We Need to Talk
The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down
Be the Boss Everyone Wants to Work For
The Book of Hygge
Feminist Fight Club

Related Channels

Comment on this summary

  • Avatar
  • Avatar
    Geert Marcel G. Barbier 1 year ago
    Very good common sense advice
    • Avatar
      Cami Adair 1 year ago
      Agreed. This book has helped me a lot. I've reached out more since reading it.